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meganbmoore...that hadn't been sorted yet because a quick glane before told me there was nothing interesting inside, I find a book titled Smart Women, Foolish Choices with the subtitle Finding the Right Men, Avoiding the Wrong Ones. Written by, of course, two men. The back of the book indicates it's all about teaching women how to tailor themselves to have relationships with the right kind of man, as do chapter titles and subtitles.
But you know, I realize I can be overly sensitive when it comes to such things, so I went to read Amazon reviews.
Until I read this book I did not realise that I had emotional needs I was expecting another person to meet. These needs overpowered my judgement when chosing the right guy. I also had misconceptions on what a good relationship was supposed to be like. I thought feeling anxious was normal.
The book teaches you that your emotional needs are bad, and shouldn't be a consideration in your relationships?
This is a valuable book on how to gage erroneous, futile mechanisms and thought processes that keep women in hopeless mindsets and equally hopeless relationships. These two licensed professional counselors are men themselves, and their experience and professional knowledge bring much enlightenment to the mystery of men's behavior in relationships. I highly recommend this book to those who have been led to falsely believe that all men are commitment-phobic slugs and want validation to seek emotionally mature men that embrace confident, mature women for what they bring to the union. It offers tips on how ladies can come into their own power and to take assured chances with the opposite sex. Very concise, easy to read and well-written.
Nope, not men telling women how to gain power, or make themselves into what men want. Really.
I felt that the book as a whole was biased. The book suggests that women set lower standards in order to find the man of their dreams. The book also diminishes the mother's crucial role in raising children and implies that the decision to have children lies solely with the woman.
I felt that the book was contradictory. On one hand, it tells women the type of men to avoid and what type of woman is most desirable to men. On the other hand, it says that the smart woman who has learned from her past mistakes "may have served to narrow her vision and opportunities." Perhaps smart women are too much of a challenge for a real man.
I love you, reviewer.
Two on one particular subject:
While a woman's inclination with a man she likes is to go ahead and call, send a card, things like that . . . it just ins't a good idea in a dating relationship. Although I would not say the authors advocate manipulation or games, this one piece of advice could not have been stated better. I've seent this advice in other places, and tossed it aside, thinking . . . I'd rather not play games. They back it up with solid scientific reasoning.
The book starts out okay, talking about games and insecurities and poor outcomes, but then goes on to advocate manipulation.
Yeah, I'm pretty sure I want to read something that tells me to not be myself, and hide my intentions....
I...I really wish I could find anything that indicates it might be ok for a woman to not have a man, or for a man to adapt for a woman.
For that matter, are there any books out there that tell men how to tailor themselves to snag the "right kind of woman" and what women to avoid, and tell them that they're sabotaging themselves?
[Poll #1290566]
But you know, I realize I can be overly sensitive when it comes to such things, so I went to read Amazon reviews.
Until I read this book I did not realise that I had emotional needs I was expecting another person to meet. These needs overpowered my judgement when chosing the right guy. I also had misconceptions on what a good relationship was supposed to be like. I thought feeling anxious was normal.
The book teaches you that your emotional needs are bad, and shouldn't be a consideration in your relationships?
This is a valuable book on how to gage erroneous, futile mechanisms and thought processes that keep women in hopeless mindsets and equally hopeless relationships. These two licensed professional counselors are men themselves, and their experience and professional knowledge bring much enlightenment to the mystery of men's behavior in relationships. I highly recommend this book to those who have been led to falsely believe that all men are commitment-phobic slugs and want validation to seek emotionally mature men that embrace confident, mature women for what they bring to the union. It offers tips on how ladies can come into their own power and to take assured chances with the opposite sex. Very concise, easy to read and well-written.
Nope, not men telling women how to gain power, or make themselves into what men want. Really.
I felt that the book as a whole was biased. The book suggests that women set lower standards in order to find the man of their dreams. The book also diminishes the mother's crucial role in raising children and implies that the decision to have children lies solely with the woman.
I felt that the book was contradictory. On one hand, it tells women the type of men to avoid and what type of woman is most desirable to men. On the other hand, it says that the smart woman who has learned from her past mistakes "may have served to narrow her vision and opportunities." Perhaps smart women are too much of a challenge for a real man.
I love you, reviewer.
Two on one particular subject:
While a woman's inclination with a man she likes is to go ahead and call, send a card, things like that . . . it just ins't a good idea in a dating relationship. Although I would not say the authors advocate manipulation or games, this one piece of advice could not have been stated better. I've seent this advice in other places, and tossed it aside, thinking . . . I'd rather not play games. They back it up with solid scientific reasoning.
The book starts out okay, talking about games and insecurities and poor outcomes, but then goes on to advocate manipulation.
Yeah, I'm pretty sure I want to read something that tells me to not be myself, and hide my intentions....
I...I really wish I could find anything that indicates it might be ok for a woman to not have a man, or for a man to adapt for a woman.
For that matter, are there any books out there that tell men how to tailor themselves to snag the "right kind of woman" and what women to avoid, and tell them that they're sabotaging themselves?
[Poll #1290566]